Is My Family Member a Psychopath?

by Cindy

Several years ago, I met a family member. We seemed to have a lot in common, even tho we did not grow up together. He was fun to be around, charming, generous.

Soon after we met, he started talking about how he had been abused as a child. Later I discovered he hadn't spoke to his mother in 10 years. Denied her a visit on her death bed. He was fired from his job. Divorced after 1 year of marriage. Drugs and alcohol abuse.

He repeatedly goes weeks without answering my calls or messages.

I recently lost my mom, and his response was, "What about me? I was abused as a child." He seems to have no compassion. He wanted a family member to name their child after him! And was mad when this didn't happen.

He lies. He is unable to keep up with his lies.

He will make plans with you, and then, just not show up. No phone call or anything.

He called me once, just to tell me that he got a new phone number, and I couldn't have it! Also, he called just to tell me that he was taking another family member to lunch, and I was NOT invited!

What is wrong with someone who intentionally tries to hurt you?

I have decided to cut ties with this family member, but it may be difficult, because we are still connected by family.

My instincts tells me that he could possibly be dangerous. Other family members have seen his evil ways also. I do have support in that way.

What is the best way to handle someone like this?