The Secrets To Make
Your Relationships Work!
October 25th - 26th 2008
Co. Wicklow, Ireland
Learn how to make the small decisions
that have the BIGGEST impact
in order to make your relationships work...
Relationships and love. It's the stuff of books, poems and music. It's the subject of millions of words. Yet there are times when a momentary glance is shared and love is expressed in a way that goes beyond words. Gone are the dramas and the futile masks and in its place we experience a deepfelt bond and sense of connection.
What actually happens that allows an intimate relationship to be satisfying and fulfilling, while allowing each partner to grow and evolve and achieve what they want in life, in an environment that gives them freedom and safety at the same time?
Many couples know very well how to do the things that prevent this kind of healthy relationship. They bring work stresses home, disagree about the in-laws, they have different ideas about how to spend money, and they argue about sex, housework, and of course, the kids.
Do you want to learn how to think about and actually relate differently to your partner? What if you knew the secrets that allow people to stay in relationships 20, 30, 50 years or more? And each year is better than the previous one! Better in terms of intimacy, love, closeness, communication, respect.
So that you can make your relationships work, on this course you will learn how to:
- - understand your partner in a different way
- - discuss things and even argue so that you both get what you want
- - influence and be influenced
- - light each other's fires once more
- - fall in love all over again, regularly!
- - make your partner the most important thing in your life again
Making different kinds of decisions
You will learn new and different ways of dealing with problems that you can put to use straight away. Depending on whether the problem is a one-off situational thing or an ongoing underlying issue, you will develop a different understanding of how to deal with it, practically and effectively.
And this program is not just about problem solving or conflict resolution to make your relationships work. It goes way beyond that.
We will consider the things that make a marriage "emotionally intelligent", when each partner has found a way so that the negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which occur now and then!) never overwhelm the positive ones. Because when they do, the marriage/relationship is doomed to failure.
When things go wrong...
The incidence of divorce is increasing. Many people are finding that their relationships are becoming boring or stale. The initial excitement and passion is lacking. Somehow the stresses and strains of work, the children, or even just living is taking its toll.
Oftentimes it may seem that the best solution is to leave this relationship and find another. But, of course, unless you learn to change your behaviours and your ideas about relationships, you are just going to run into the same difficulties in the next relationship.
And being in an unhappy marriage is bad for your health. Studies show that stressed couples have more illnesses and actually die younger. A great marriage can give you more health benefits than gym workouts. It makes sense then, to learn how to make your relationships work.
Myths and mistakes
This course is designed to do several things. First of all, you will learn why some common myths about marriages and relationships are just not true. For example, there is the idea that you should 'speak your mind' in order to resolve conflicts. Or that men are less emotional than women. Or even that they are from different planets!
These ideas can be incredibly limiting and may lead to resentment and disappointment, with no way to sort out the issues. Learn where these ideas came from and why they may be damaging your relationship...
You will also learn the patterns and behaviours that causes instability and disruption of relationships, how to spot them and what to do about them. You will come together to understand how a clash in values or beliefs can create conflict, contempt and resentment. These things can, over time, ruin any relationship.
Once you know how to quickly and easily resolve conflicts (or even avoid some of them altogether!), you have more time for each other!
Those early days!
Remember those times when you spent a lot of your day thinking about your partner and how much you love them, and you knew for sure that your partner was thinking the same about you, you both delighted in the details of your relationship, there was lots of contact, in fact, sometimes you just couldn't keep your hands off each other... or your clothes on... ahem.
Ok, you get the thrust. You didn't have to try very hard to make your relationships work, they just did.
It is possible to have times like these again, with some subtle adjustments...
What happens then is that the chemistry that brought you together in the first place, the love, passion, fondness and admiration begins to surface again.
The respect you have for your partner begins to grow. You begin to work together, moving in the same direction, because of, and in spite of, any differences you may have.
The best of times...
You begin again to really look forward to spending time together. You 'give' in the relationship, not out of a sense of duty or to keep score, but because you want to.
You find lots of little ways during each day to let your partner know that you care. And vice versa. You are very aware of the deep-seated positive feelings for each other. You're always in the black in your emotional bank accounts!
And this positive balance allows you to get through the times when things are tough or difficult or stressful.
Because successful, healthy relationships and marriages are based on a deep and trusting friendship. The couples know each other very well and express their love and fondness not just on special occasions but in the little things of normal day-to-day living. This is truly how to make your relationships work.
Words from the wise
A group of young children between 4 and 8 were asked the question 'What does love mean?' This is what some of them said:
"Love is when mommy sees daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford."
"Love is when my daddy makes coffee for my mummy and he takes a sip before giving it to her to make sure the taste is OK."
"You should only tell someone you love them when you mean it. And if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget!"
It's the little things that count
So if you are waiting to spend some quality time with your spouse during your next holiday, or you make a special effort once a week or once a month to do something together, you are missing out on the opportunity to nurture and enhance your relationship in the ways that actually count.
Even when you know how to make your relationships work, it does not mean that you never argue or disagree over things. But you do develop ways to deal with these situations so that you both come out of them winners. A (win-win)², so to speak, where the honor and respect of both partners is maintained intact.
Honoring and respecting each other also means that you support each other's hopes and aspirations and have a sense of shared purpose in your lives. Of course, this means knowing what your spouse's purpose, dreams and life goals are. You do know those, don't you?!
Who is the 'Make Your Relationships Work' program for?
Ideally, of course, the program is for both partners. However, the program has been designed so that even if one partner attends, they will have enough knowledge and experience to make significant shifts in their relationships. And even if you are single, but you want to understand where you may have gone wrong in the past and what to do about it in future, you are welcome, too!
For the men that think this is a program for women, there was a time when a macho attitude did not damage a relationship. Nowadays, however, things are changing culturally and socially. Do you want to keep up? Or not...?
And remember the time (for some of you, before kids...!) when you had your wife/partner all to yourself sometimes? Want to know how to create more of these times...?!?
Your Trainers
The program will be run by Frieda McGoldrick and David McDermott who are happy to say that they have the kind of healthy relationship that they will be teaching about!!
Date and Venue
The program will be run in the Glenview Hotel, in Greystones, Co Wicklow, on October 25th and 26th, from 9am to 6pm on the Saturday and 9am to 5pm on Sunday.
The Cost
The price is 450euro per person, and for couples the price is 750euro, a saving of 150euro!
How much do you spend on your car every year? How much are your mobile phone bills every month? Multiplied by 12?
What's it worth to you to be able to make your relationships work?
To book your place now and/or for more information, you can talk to Frieda on +353 87 2186 209 or David on +353 87 924 8801 or you can fill out the form below. (We use such forms to avoid spam.)
See you there!
Frieda & David.
Book yourselves in now!!
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