A sociopath definition in a medical dictionary is something like:
But that doesn't tell us very much!
The best way to think about a sociopath is somebody who does not have any conscience. That means they don't feel any guilt, shame, remorse or embarrassment about anything they do. This may seem very strange to those people who do live with a conscience because it's incredibly difficult to imagine what it would be like.
It means that sociopaths can do bad or evil things and feel no regrets whatsoever. This explains how some serial killers or serial rapists can do what they do. They feel nothing for their victims. Absolutely nothing!
Such extreme sociopaths are very rare, however. Much more common are the sociopaths who live seemingly normal lives, but who are lying, cheating, swindling and manipulating everybody around them for their own selfish gains.
They can be incredibly difficult to spot because they are charming, friendly and witty and make friends easily. They like to make friends because friends trust each other. And it's easier to get friends to do what you want.
They have an ability to spot the needs, desires and weaknesses of others and will use them to control and dominate for personal benefit.
The relationships they build are totally fabricated, deliberately designed to manipulate the emotions of their victims in order to be able to take advantage of them. And they may do it really well! So well, in fact, that even when they are abusing people, stealing from them and lying, the victim still wants to maintain the relationship with them!
This can occur within a husband wife relationship, in a business setting or even large group settings such as destructive cults, or you may have a sociopath next door!
The wife who treats her husband badly, having many affairs, spending a lot of money, having him look after the house and children when she's out socializing, may be a sociopath.
That high-powered exec who has climbed the corporate ladder very rapidly, walking all over everybody else, who never quite gets the job done on time, or ends up tricking somebody else to do it for him, but somehow is always in the good graces of his superiors, may be a sociopath.
The important thing to recognize is that these monsters want to control, manipulate and dominate others. For some that is the end game. Sometimes the seemingly stupid things they do can be understood only if you consider that the aim of their game is control.
Perhaps we should add something about this to our sociopath definition - "No conscience and wants to dominate.'
A third group of sociopaths are those with overtly antisocial behavior.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders describes the criteria for antisocial personality disorder as follows:
Obviously not every one of the sociopathic symptoms need to be present to make a diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder!
You could say that in any sociopath definition there is a spectrum in the symptoms that sociopaths display, from serial killers on the one end, to those with obvious illegal and destructive antisocial behaviors, to those who are 'socialized' or integrated into the community but who nevertheless are destroying people's lives but in a way that is more difficult to recognize.
And it seems that they are all controlling and domineering.
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And psychologists who work with clients to undo the mind control of sociopaths suggest that if a sociopath has not had problems with the law, it's only because they haven't been found out yet!
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Whatever sociopath definition you use, these people are sometimes also known as psychopaths. In the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders they say that antisocial personality disorder is also known as sociopathy or as psychopathy.
Dr. Robert Hare, a psychologist who has studied psychopaths for many years, believes that most sociopaths psychopaths have antisocial personality disorder, but not everybody with an antisocial personality disorder is a sociopath.
For example people can engage in antisocial behavior for a variety of reasons including traumas in childhood, childhood abuse or neglect and so on. Sociopaths, however, do it because they have no conscience. They know they're doing wrong or evil, and it doesn't bother them.
Some people believe there is a difference between sociopathy and psychopathy but there is often disagreement about what the differences are. You can find out more about sociopath vs psychopath here.
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