What Is Narcissism? Clears Up Many Of The Mistaken Ideas
About Narcissism And Explains What Is Really Going On
Have you had enough of being badly treated in a relationship?
Are you realizing that your relationship isn't what you thought it was? Things were fantastic at first, but those days are long gone.
You struggle to make things work and satisfy your partner, and it seems that it's never enough. You are always expected to give more, or do more, or be more.
Maybe you can't quite understand what the problem is, but you do know you are tired of being taken advantage of, physically, emotionally and even financially. Or you think you are going mad... Or worse, your family and friends think you are the mad or bad one in the relationship!
Maybe you are tired of always being second, of having to put your needs aside or even sacrifice them altogether, so that your partner can have what they want.
If you think you are dealing with a narcissist you are dealing with someone who is not just selfish and self centered. It goes way beyond that. A person with narcissistic personality disorder, by definition, lacks empathy.
This means that they do not have many of the emotions that you do. They have no consideration for others. They have no guilt, remorse or embarrassment about anything they do. They are incapable of love.
What they do have is a great ability to put on a performance, to pretend that they have these emotions. They have a hidden advantage here because normal people are not normally on the lookout for cold, heartless predators who are hunting their next victim.
In fact, in What Is Narcissism? you will learn that narcissists are playing by a totally different set of rules to normal people. If you don't know what those rules are, how can you hope to win, or even survive?
What Is Narcissism? explains what a narcissist is and the difference between healthy narcissism and narcissist personality disorder. It goes into depth about how the pathology of narcissism shows up in the thinking and behavior of narcissists.
You will learn the characteristics of narcissists that leads them to treat others the way they do, their motivations for doing so and what kinds of chaos and destruction they cause in the lives of their victims.
What Is Narcissism? is not a heavy duty academic tome full of psychiatric jargon and terminology. It is written in a conversational style with lots of common examples so that you can easily understand what is narcissism.
It also allows you to recognize similar situations in your own life so that you realize that you are not alone in this. Knowing that others have had similar experiences is often a relief for those who are coming out of a destructive relationship.
What Is Narcissism? is divided into 2 parts, the first is about understanding narcissism, the second about protecting yourself.
Part 1 chapters include:
Part 2 has chapters on:
What Is Narcissism has been written for those who are realizing they are, or were, in a destructive relationship with a narcissist. Such a relationship is not one where you can simply leave, forget about it and move on.
Narcissists use manipulation and mind control techniques to influence and dominate their victims. The unfortunate victims do not realize they are being unduly influenced and coerced. This often means that the unhealthy beliefs and ideas that the narcissist installs during the relationship persist even after the relationship breaks up!
To fully recover, the individual needs to become aware of these destructive beliefs in order to choose for themselves what they actually want to believe.
And that's just the hidden damage...
After leaving an abusive relationship with a narcissist, the victim often has difficulty starting another relationship, difficulties with intimacy in future relationships, problems trusting people, problems with other people telling them what to do, difficulty in making their own decisions, and they may find it hard to concentrate and to remember things.
These are a direct result of the mind control and domination by the narcissist. These things typically resolve themselves when the person undoes the effects of the mind control.
However, if they do not deliberately examine the relationship with the intention of undoing the negative effects, these problems can persist for years.
The worst case scenario is where the individual gets caught by another narcissist and ends up in another abusive relationship.
Remember, narcissists are predatory creatures, always on the lookout for potential victims, and they will quickly spot someone who has already been a victim of mind control. The narcissist will then befriend them, supposedly offering them what they need, and then the cycle of abuse begins again.
Don't get caught again. Educate yourself! Learn as much as you can about narcissists and mind control.
What is Narcissism? is not just about the theory of narcissism. It offers practical advice on what to look out for if you think you may be dealing with a narcissist. There are examples of behaviors that constitute narcissistic abuse as well as advice on spotting narcissists in the family and at work.
You will learn some things you should do and things you should not do if you are in a relationship with a narcissist. The advice is not always easy to follow and there are often no simple solutions. But the advice in What Is Narcissism? comes from people who have survived narcissistic relationships and who have undone the mind control and they invariably agree on the best way to deal with narcissists.
I like the way the book is easy to follow and understand. What I most liked was that the negative effects of a narcissist can be completely stopped. After reading What Is Narcissism?I can now understand why narcissists behave and act like they do which I now believe is key to undoing any bad feelings caused by them, or towards them.
Before I started reading the book I presumed a narcissist would be easy to spot by anyone and that it would be difficult to fall into their trap.
I didn't realize how well narcissists can hide in society and can turn out to be someone you least suspect. I found that their destructive side can be so well hidden, and effective, that it's extremely hard to spot it until the damage is done. And once that happened I found it to be confusing and hard to get a grasp of the bigger picture.
I was left with the feeling that maybe I was in the wrong. I also felt guilty that maybe it was my fault for the way they acted towards me. This directly caused years of lack of confidence and a nasty feeling that something wasn't quite right. This feeling affected me day to day. My decisions, my relationships and nearly everyone I came in contact with were all affected negatively and the worst part of it all is that I didn't know what was causing it.
I blamed everything from my diet to the people around me for the way I was. It was only until I read and understood the book that things for me started to change dramatically.
I now know that it is not my fault that the narcissist treated me the way they did. After understanding why they do what they do, it is easy to break away from their destructive ways. Really easy!! No matter who they are! Now that I understand them...
That horrible feeling they caused, that I didn't know was because of them, has vanished. Initially it was like a light bulb flashing on the top of my head and I couldn't believe it was all down to the one person. It is amazing that those awful thoughts and feelings make sense now. As soon as they made sense, they went away!
There are so many benefits I found after reading What Is Narcissism? The biggest for me has to be the fact that it will be hard to fall into a narcissists trap again. Becoming aware of them quickly will be invaluable in the future, but that's not to say I will automatically have a negative view on everyone new I meet just in case they are a narcissist.
It's quite the opposite... I don't have to be afraid that everyone new I meet will try to emotionally hurt me if I get to know them well, because I'll be able to spot if there is something not quite right with them. This will definitely make me more positive.
Overall I think everyone should read What Is Narcissism? Simply because there are a lot more narcissists out there than you would think and I believe anyone who reads the book would agree with me 100%.
The abuses people suffer at the hands of narcissists are horrible. The frequent lies, the continuous humiliation, always taking the blame and being made to feel responsible, never feeling good enough and so on...
The effects of this kind of, for all intents and purposes, torture, does not simply disappear. The effects may last for years unless you actively learn about narcissists so that you can make sense of what happened to you in the relationship.
What Is Narcissism? explains how narcissists make their victims feel responsible for all the stuff that happens to them. They also make them feel as if they are never good enough, with the result that the victims set their own expectations very high. They feel they should be able to manage what is happening to them.
Add to this the fact that the narcissist will isolate the victim from their social support networks and you get a situation where the victim feels they do not need help, they can manage on their own, and even that it's best not to think or talk about the relationship.
This is a recipe for disaster for the victim. Further isolating yourself and blaming yourself will not end well.
Victims who educate themselves about narcissists and mind control have found that this is the key to gaining a different perspective in order to make sense of what happened to them.
When they understand the motivations of the narcissist, what the narcissist did to them and how it affected them, only then can they begin to free themselves from the web of lies and deceit that was spun around them. And they usually wished they had started sooner so as not to have wasted so much time feeling confused, upset, angry and humiliated.
What Is Narcissism? is a good place to start. It will give you a good overview of what you are dealing with, as well as enough details for you to begin to understand what happened to you.
And it did happen TO you. It was not your fault. You are not to blame. This is a tricky aspect for people to understand but it is a vital aspect for recovery.
Because I have been there! I have been in a 1-to-1 relationship with a narcissist as well as being a high ranking member of a personal development cult for a number of years.
I have first hand experience of being on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse and I also have experience working with people coming out of narcissistic relationships and cults.
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If you have been caught by a narcissist you may have lost years of your life, you will have spent your energy looking after them and the chances are you lost money as well. Your self esteem and your self confidence will have taken a hit. All these things take a toll on you.
Leaving the relationship brings up a lot of sometimes conflicting emotions. Relief and peace but at the same time grief, upset, loss and even unexpected feelings of betrayal. It is a very emotional time and it is a vulnerable time because it is very easy for you to get suckered back into the relationship if you don't understand what is happening.
It can be even more distressing if the narcissist won't let you go, and pesters you to come back or even has access to your home or is threatening you with all sorts of things.
Months or even years after breaking up, narcissists often contact their victims and try to pick up where they left off.
Learning about narcissism, how they work and why they do what they do is vital if you want to break free of the dependence and domination that narcissists create.
What's it worth for you to have a different perspective on the abuse and suffering that you have experienced, so that you don't get caught again?
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