Whether people undo mind control often depends on how they leave the destructive group or cultic relationship. People typically leave in one of three ways. They can be thrown out by the group, they leave of their own volition or they are counseled out.
The first way, being ostracized by the group can be extremely traumatic, especially if they have devoted their whole life to the group. The first thing they typically do is try and win their way back into the group's good graces. Usually they're not aware they are in a destructive group and so make no attempt to undo mind control or its effects.
In the second case, the person may leave because they are disillusioned with the group but are still unaware that they have been in a sect. Consequently, they do not seek help to undo the effects of mind control.
In fact, they may even find themselves involved in another destructive group because this new group seems to be offering what the previous one did not!
The third group, who are counseled out by an expert who understands coercive persuasion, do have a chance to undo mind control experienced in their group.
In the past, deprogramming was used, and often involved more or less kidnapping the person and keeping them detained to undo mind control with them. They were given facts and information about the leader that was previously hidden until they finally began to see through the deception. Obviously this is very traumatic, especially when you consider that group members have very strong beliefs about the leader and the group. It was not always successful and sometimes members returned to the group.
Nowadays exit counseling is much more the norm. A group member is invited to spend 1, 2 or even 3 days away from the sect to talk to a specialist. The group member spends this time talking to the specialist, sometimes ex-members and some close family members about what's actually going on.
Again they will be given information about the group and the leader that was previously hidden. Ex-members can be especially helpful here in clarifying the contradictions, lies and deception that is going on in the group.
Obviously, this is a very delicate situation that needs much preparation and planning. Before the meeting, any family members that have contact with the group member can begin to introduce various ideas in the conversations with him or her.
The basic idea is to begin to get the member thinking critically once again. This is fundamental to undo mind control because the very nature of mind control is to shut down reasoning and critical thinking in the victims.
During the intervention, the member is allowed some control over what happens, for example, when there are rest breaks, who he talks to, but it's best that there is no contact with the group.
At the end of the meeting, the aim is for the member to have sufficient information and understanding of how mind control works, how he was deceived and the real intentions of the leader, that he is able to makes his own decision about whether or not to return to the group.
Occasionally people do return to the group, but very often sufficient doubts have been sown that they leave soon thereafter. The usual response is for the person to decide to stay away from the group and to start therapy to undo mind control and get their life back.
Not everyone who has been in a sect will need therapy. However, if you think you have been in a sect, it's worth at least having an evaluation. It's very difficult for a person to know the extent of the effects the mind control has had on themselves. Such is the nature of the beast! And to undo mind control effectively it certainly helps to work with a professional.
Initially, the therapist assesses the extent of the effects of mind control. The person then start into a process of psycho education, really beginning to learn about coercive persuasion and manipulation through reading text books and fiction, and watching films and videos, and in particular, recognizing how these tactics were used to control and manipulate them. They will learn about the nature and character of the manipulator and what his or her motives actually were.
An important part of the process to undo mind control is to dismantle the phobias installed by the group. The phobias are usually installed to control and manipulate the members and obviously they need to be undone to allow the member the freedom to make their own decisions again.
It's often very difficult for group members to go to a professional for help to undo mind control because of the phobias installed by the group!
The system of beliefs and the pseudo-identity also have to be dismantled. This is a process that takes time and is necessary in order to allow the person's true identity to re-establish itself.
Typically it's a very emotional time and can take a lot of time and energy.
Finally, the last part of therapy is to help the person to reintegrate himself or herself into society once again.
Knowledge and education is the main way to undo mind control and indeed, recognition that it exists, understanding how it works and vigilance is the best way to stop mind control from happening in the first place!
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