The Ultimate
Decision Making Process

The Decision Making Process
that puts YOU first

The decision making process is very much determined by who you are. By this I mean, the way you are being in the world. Who you are determines not just what you think but how you think.

This makes it incredibly important to establish your way of being before you even consider any kind of decision making process.

So let's say, you know how to establish a sense of self that is whole and complete. You understand how to generate this position from within, you recognise the signals that let you know when you're operating from this position. Only then should you turn your attention to the decision making process.

There are a huge number of decision-making processes available to choose from. Where do you begin? Some people use their intuition, others prefer a rational model, and of course, they will have lots of reasons as to why this is better! There are decision trees, decision maps, a variety of decision matrix and decision matrix tables and so on. There are so many, in fact, it would be easy to be indecisive about which one to choose!

And then of course there is the search for the best decision. This quest is often a major factor for people being indecisive and not making any decision at all.

Rational vs Intuitive

YOU go first...

I know I've been pushing this idea of first establishing the position of who you most want to be in the world. The reason is twofold. First of all having a well formed structural position to operate from allows you to function more effectively and more efficiently.

The second reason is that the decision making process suggested here actually feeds back into that. When making decisions in the way suggested here, you not only get to choose the best option, but the option you choose also strengthens the structural foundation from which you make future decisions.

The Question

There is only ever one question to answer in the decision making process.

If I do x, will it allow me to more so be who I want to be, or not?

It sounds simple, and it is. Because of the way the question is asked the answer will be yes or no. These signals of this decision process are unique and distinct for each individual.

If it's a 'Yes', then go ahead. If it's a 'No', do not do it.

Sometimes the answer may be "I don't know". In this case, the most useful thing is simply to wait and gather more information. This is not the same as being indecisive. An 'I don't know' in this decision making process, simply means that you don't have enough data. Time spent gathering the information will be time well spent. Then it becomes obvious whether the answer is yes and no.

This is definitively not a rational decision making process! There will be times when you make decisions that you know are right for you. Everybody around you, however, may think you have lost your mind.

Nor is it purely intuitive process. While the internal signal set is part of our evolutionary biology, you absolutely take into account the information in the environment around you. In fact, you actively use the relevant information in the environment to make sure that you get where you want to go. It would be fair to say that this decision making process uses elements of a rational approach as well as those of an intuitive approach.

Life affirming consequences...

But what about the consequences I hear you ask. Of course, there are always consequences to any decision making process. The universal and the most important consequence to using this particular approach is that you get to live your own life!

This is important and is worth repeating. Whenever you use this decision making process, you are guaranteed that each choice you make will allow you to be who you most want to be in the world so that you can live your own life.

Initially as you use this decision-making process you will find that you get yes and no signals. With practice and familiarity, there are more and more yes signals (and much less no's) as your system sets itself up to make the right decisions for you and the direction you are going in...

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